Life Notes
Thoughts, tools, and truths to help you make sense of it all.
How to Build a Stronger Life Without Burning Out
Every now and then, I come across a few headlines that unexpectedly connect the dots.
This week, it was three stories—one about trust, one about leadership coaching, and one about a boundary technique called a “resentment audit.” Three very different topics, but all pointing to one thing:
Growth doesn’t need a grand gesture. It needs clarity.
It turns out the most powerful shifts we can make don’t require a new job, a drastic move, or some big life overhaul. They start in small, deliberate ways—like choosing to trust again, learning how to lead yourself, or finally saying no when your plate is full.
Trust: The Surprising Link to Wellbeing A new study in Psychological Bulletin shows that people who consistently express healthy levels of trust—both in their relationships and in their communities—actually live longer, healthier lives.
Trust isn’t about blind faith. It’s about believing that others will show up when they say they will. And it’s about learning to show up for yourself, too.
It builds slowly. Through consistent reliability. Through clear communication. Through letting go of control and letting in connection. You can’t force trust, but you can grow it.
And it turns out, growing trust is one of the most life-affirming things we can do.
Leadership: It Starts with You We often think leadership is about managing teams or climbing ladders. But at its core, leadership is about clarity, presence, and reflection.
The Financial Times ran a piece on how executive coaching is becoming a proactive tool, not a rescue plan. Instead of waiting for burnout, more companies are offering coaching upfront to help people find their footing early.
You don’t need to be an executive to benefit from this. Anyone can use reflection and self-awareness to make clearer choices. To create calm in chaos. To reset their focus and get unstuck.
That’s what real leadership looks like.
Boundaries: Enter the Resentment Audit
This might be my favorite new term.
Executive coach Melody Wilding suggests doing a regular “resentment audit”—looking at where you feel stretched too thin, taken for granted, or pulled into things you didn’t agree to.
Resentment, she says, is a signpost. It’s your body telling you where a boundary needs to be.
The fix isn’t angry confrontation—it’s clarity. Saying, “I’m not available for that right now.” Or, “Can we revisit how we’re working together?” Or even just, “No, thank you.”
Boundaries aren’t barriers. They’re bridges—to better energy, better work, and better relationships.
You Don’t Need to Escape to Grow That’s the thread tying all of this together.
Whether we’re talking about building trust, leading with clarity, or drawing boundaries, none of it requires a fancy title or an expensive program. You don’t need a reset getaway to do this work.
You just need intention. And a little support.
That’s exactly why I created The Life Solution Project — a course that helps you reset your daily patterns, clarify your goals, and make room for the version of you who isn’t running on empty.
You’ll find tools for:
Identifying where your boundaries are breaking down
Rebuilding self-trust one decision at a time
Leading yourself with calm, instead of chaos
Journaling and check-ins that become part of your real routine
Creating the kind of momentum that actually lasts
No fluff. No hype. Just practical clarity and care.
Start Where You Are You don’t need to wait until you’re exhausted. Or on the verge of a breakdown. Or “ready.” You don’t need more hustle or pressure to prove anything.
You just need a pause. A few questions. A willingness to take one small step in a slightly different direction.
If you’re ready for that kind of change—the kind that feels real, human, and lasting—I’d love you to explore The Life Solution Project. It was built for exactly this.
Real growth doesn’t come from pushing harder.
It comes from tuning in, slowing down, and choosing to lead your life from the inside out. Let’s start there.
That’s what real leadership looks like.
Boundaries: Enter the Resentment Audit
This might be my favorite new term.
Executive coach Melody Wilding suggests doing a regular “resentment audit”—looking at where you feel stretched too thin, taken for granted, or pulled into things you didn’t agree to.
Resentment, she says, is a signpost. It’s your body telling you where a boundary needs to be.
The fix isn’t angry confrontation—it’s clarity. Saying, “I’m not available for that right now.” Or, “Can we revisit how we’re working together?” Or even just, “No, thank you.”
Boundaries aren’t barriers. They’re bridges—to better energy, better work, and better relationships.
You Don’t Need to Escape to Grow That’s the thread tying all of this together.
Whether we’re talking about building trust, leading with clarity, or drawing boundaries, none of it requires a fancy title or an expensive program. You don’t need a reset getaway to do this work.
You just need intention. And a little support.
That’s exactly why I created The Life Solution Project — a course that helps you reset your daily patterns, clarify your goals, and make room for the version of you who isn’t running on empty.
You’ll find tools for:
Identifying where your boundaries are breaking down
Rebuilding self-trust one decision at a time
Leading yourself with calm, instead of chaos
Journaling and check-ins that become part of your real routine
Creating the kind of momentum that actually lasts
No fluff. No hype. Just practical clarity and care.
Start Where You Are You don’t need to wait until you’re exhausted. Or on the verge of a breakdown. Or “ready.” You don’t need more hustle or pressure to prove anything.
You just need a pause. A few questions. A willingness to take one small step in a slightly different direction.
If you’re ready for that kind of change—the kind that feels real, human, and lasting—I’d love you to explore The Life Solution Project. It was built for exactly this.
Real growth doesn’t come from pushing harder.
It comes from tuning in, slowing down, and choosing to lead your life from the inside out. Let’s start there.
Do You Really Need a $16,000 Retreat to Reset Your Life?
Every week, it seems like there’s a new retreat, bootcamp, or tour claiming to change your life. From “neurohacking” brain camps to emotional breakthroughs in luxury hotel ballrooms, the promises are big—and the price tags are even bigger.
This past week, I read about three different programs:
A $16,000 five-day “neurofeedback” retreat offering 40 years’ worth of meditation in one go.
A high-pressure transformational bootcamp in LA that promises total emotional reset—if you're okay with being pushed hard.
And Mel Robbins' “Let Them Tour”, which encourages you to stop controlling others and reclaim your own emotional space.
Now, I’m not knocking any of them. Honestly, I love that personal development is becoming more visible, more talked about, more mainstream. But it did make me pause and ask a real question:
Do we really need to pay thousands of dollars to reset, reflect, and get back in touch with ourselves?
The appeal makes sense There’s something magical about getting away from your normal life.
When you step into a new environment—free from dishes, noise, and responsibilities—you can finally hear yourself again. That part I understand. Completely.
But here’s the thing: you don’t have to travel halfway across the world or drain your bank account to reset your mindset.
What you really need is structure, space, and the right kind of support. Not pressure. Not hype. And definitely not guilt if the results don’t come in five days or two nights.
Growth takes time (and that’s okay)
Everywhere we look, we’re being sold speed. Instant healing. One-week breakthroughs. 30-day challenges that promise you’ll feel like a whole new person. But what about those of us who need longer? Or smaller steps? Or who just don’t want to cry in a circle of strangers at a high-end venue?
You shouldn’t have to pay four figures to give yourself permission to change.
That’s why I created The Life Solution Project — a self-guided course that lets you go deep without going broke.
Why I believe in going at your own pace
When I started building this course, I didn’t want it to be another “fix your life in 7 days” offer. I wanted it to feel like sitting down with a cup of tea and finally telling yourself the truth. No pressure. No noise. Just simple, practical ways to check in with your life and gently shift the things that aren’t working anymore.
Some days you’ll move quickly. Other days, you’ll sit with a thought for a while. That’s the whole point. Change is not a performance. It’s a process.
The three big themes behind most retreats—without the big price tag Let’s take a look at what these pricey experiences are really selling:
Resetting your nervous system
Letting go of what you can’t control
Learning how to actually hear your own voice again
Those aren’t trends. They’re needs. And they don’t require a $16,000 invoice.
They require space, guidance, and permission.
All of which you can find inside The Life Solution Project—at your pace, in your space.
What you’ll find inside my course Modules to help you tune in instead of zone out
Tools that build self-awareness without burnout
Templates, checklists, and mindset shifts you can revisit anytime
Support that feels like clarity—not pressure
Whether you're in the middle of a life shift, or simply sick of feeling like you need another guru to tell you what’s best for you… this is your space to breathe, regroup, and move forward.
Final thought You don’t have to fly somewhere to come back to yourself.
So if you’ve been eyeing those retreats, tours, or bootcamps and wondering, “Couldn’t I just do this myself?”—my answer is: Yes. With the right support, you absolutely can.
Because the most powerful transformation doesn’t always come with a room key or a wristband. Sometimes, it just comes from deciding you’re ready.
You shouldn’t have to pay four figures to give yourself permission to change.
That’s why I created The Life Solution Project — a self-guided course that lets you go deep without going broke.
Why I believe in going at your own pace
When I started building this course, I didn’t want it to be another “fix your life in 7 days” offer. I wanted it to feel like sitting down with a cup of tea and finally telling yourself the truth. No pressure. No noise. Just simple, practical ways to check in with your life and gently shift the things that aren’t working anymore.
Some days you’ll move quickly. Other days, you’ll sit with a thought for a while. That’s the whole point. Change is not a performance. It’s a process.
The three big themes behind most retreats—without the big price tag Let’s take a look at what these pricey experiences are really selling:
Resetting your nervous system
Letting go of what you can’t control
Learning how to actually hear your own voice again
Those aren’t trends. They’re needs. And they don’t require a $16,000 invoice.
They require space, guidance, and permission.
All of which you can find inside The Life Solution Project—at your pace, in your space.
What you’ll find inside my course Modules to help you tune in instead of zone out
Tools that build self-awareness without burnout
Templates, checklists, and mindset shifts you can revisit anytime
Support that feels like clarity—not pressure
Whether you're in the middle of a life shift, or simply sick of feeling like you need another guru to tell you what’s best for you… this is your space to breathe, regroup, and move forward.
Final thought You don’t have to fly somewhere to come back to yourself.
So if you’ve been eyeing those retreats, tours, or bootcamps and wondering, “Couldn’t I just do this myself?”—my answer is: Yes. With the right support, you absolutely can.
Because the most powerful transformation doesn’t always come with a room key or a wristband. Sometimes, it just comes from deciding you’re ready.
Why I’m Done With Hustle Culture
(And You Might Be Too)
I’ve noticed something lately: everywhere I look, there’s another reel or post telling me I need to “grind harder,” “wake up at 5 a.m.,” or “build a 7-figure business by Thursday.”
I’m tired.
And I know I’m not alone. A recent article in The Guardian by Sophie Quick (“Hustling Is Out, Healing Is In”) struck a chord with me. She followed more than 400 self-help influencers and found that even the wellness world, the place we’re meant to go for calm and clarity, has become noisy and overwhelming.
One coach says rest is resistance. Another says rest is laziness. One says shadow work is the key to everything. Another warns it’ll keep you stuck. And all of them want to sell you their $997 course to fix it.
Don’t get me wrong. I love a good course. I run one myself. But I also believe it has to come from the right place, from clarity, not chaos and from the heart using past experience.
That’s why I created The Life Solution Project — not to add more noise, but to offer a clear path for anyone who wants to understand themselves better, improve how they respond to life, and feel more confident navigating their ups and downs. No fluff. No guilt. Just grounded tools, plain language, and real change.
If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by the volume of “solutions” out there… you’re not failing. You’re discerning. You’re waking up to the fact that self-help should help, not exhaust.
Sometimes the best thing we can do is pause, unfollow the noise, and come back to ourselves.
The truth is: healing isn’t a brand. Growth isn’t a contest. And your journey doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.
Whether you're just starting out or you've tried all the journals and podcasts already, it’s okay to ask for support that actually feels doable. That’s what this project is all about. If you're ready to simplify the noise and start making sense of your next steps, you can explore my course right here. It’s gentle, practical, and designed to meet you exactly where you are.
Let’s stop measuring progress by how “busy” we are and start measuring it by how we feel.
That’s why I created The Life Solution Project — not to add more noise, but to offer a clear path for anyone who wants to understand themselves better, improve how they respond to life, and feel more confident navigating their ups and downs. No fluff. No guilt. Just grounded tools, plain language, and real change.
If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by the volume of “solutions” out there… you’re not failing. You’re discerning. You’re waking up to the fact that self-help should help, not exhaust.
Sometimes the best thing we can do is pause, unfollow the noise, and come back to ourselves.
The truth is: healing isn’t a brand. Growth isn’t a contest. And your journey doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.
Whether you're just starting out or you've tried all the journals and podcasts already, it’s okay to ask for support that actually feels doable. That’s what this project is all about. If you're ready to simplify the noise and start making sense of your next steps, you can explore my course right here. It’s gentle, practical, and designed to meet you exactly where you are.
Let’s stop measuring progress by how “busy” we are and start measuring it by how we feel.